by Dawn Billings, founder of RelationshipHelp.com
Children with Warm, Bright Orange Personality Tendencies:
Children with bright orange personality tendencies have a strong desire to be liked by others and dislike discordance and conflict. But children with orange color personality tendencies also thrive on being the center of attention. Parents may notice their attempts to tell jokes, be funny, or behave like the clown from a very early age.
Children with orange personality tendencies often end up class clowns; the most popular kids in school and/or the child actors. As child actors their careers/lives can be cut short because of their impulsivity and propensity to become involved with drugs.
Children with bright orange color personality tendencies are enthusiastic, funny, personable children who react with sensitive to the reactions of others to them. Unlike yellow personality type children, children with strong orange personality tendencies focus on how they feel, not how others around them are feeling. They want to feel good, have fun and be interested and never bored. These children are delightfully entertaining and make people laugh, which they love. Most people consider children with bright orange personality tendencies as ‘simply irresistible’, ‘adorable’, ‘hysterical’, and ‘charming’.
Children with bright orange personality tendencies pay attention to style and trends (many times actually setting them). These children tend to be natural entertainers, often learning magic, juggling, card tricks, singing and dancing at an early age.
Children with bright orange personality tendencies are very sensitivity to any kind of criticism or ridicule. They show out to get positive attention, not to be rejected. Experiencing sarcasm and ridicule when young leads children with orange color personality tendencies to develop keen wits, and biting sarcasm as a defense a mechanism.
Children with orange color personality tendencies can be self-centered. It is important to teach them empathy when they are young or their is a danger that they only pay attention to how they feel and not so much the feelings of others.
How to Effectively Parent a Child with warm Orange Personality Tendencies:
Be sincere and supportive and playful in your communication with them.
Help them focus on tasks and inspire them to strengthen their discipline. Read Dr. Foster Cline and Jim Fay’s Parenting With Love and Logic books, and order Greatness and Children: Learn the Rules, by calling 918-605-1492. Also visit my website: www.DawnBillings.com
A great resource for helping children learn and understand emotional intelligence are the many books by Daniel Goleman that focus on Emotional Intelligence and my book, Entitled to Fail, Endowed to Succeed: America’s Journey Back to Greatness, and What Have You Got to Give, written by my son Corbin when he was thirteen. Both of which you can order off my website www.DawnBillings.com.
Enjoy their outgoing and charming personalities. Additionally, teach them about character and substance. Because they are so likable and fun, they might be tempted to not develop their integrity. Teach them the power and value of their word and how much meaning what they say and saying what they mean will benefit them and those they have relationships with.
Be firm, but empathetic, fair, and respectful when disciplining them. Make sure that the discipline accurately fits the behavior for which they are being punished. But with orange children you can also use laughter to make a serious point. They love laughter and often can learn through laughter more easily than through seriousness.
Don’t fall apart and get very emotional when you are attempting to communicate your feelings. It stimulates them to do the same. They are already dramatic and will follow your lead.
Remain strong, often funny, and loving. Children with orange tendencies depend greatly on your consistency to teach them about consistency. Have your own identity, and allow them to develop theirs. Follow through will every promised disciplinary action, no matter how charming they may be in their attempts to talk you out of it.
Be your word. Do what you promise, as well as threaten, to do. Whether you promise to take your child to the park or suspend their privileges for misbehaving, you must be your word with all threats and promises.
Continue to admire the carefree and exploring spirit of your orange child. Loosen the ropes a little and allow them to learn through experience. For oranges, many times, experience is the best teacher.
Set clear respectful boundaries about what behaviors you will continue to love, respect and reward, and those you will not.
Dawn Billings first book Greatness and Children: Learn the Rules shares why and how children choose to live the greatness within them. Dawn is the inventor of the patented parenting tool for toddlers called Capables. Dawn is the founder of RelationshipHelp.com is the executive director of the RelationshipHelpResort.com in Arizona where she hosts private couples therapy retreats to help strengthen and heal broken relationships.
Dawn is also the author and architect of the Primary Colors Relationship Personality Tests and Insight Tools licensed and used widely by relationship experts around the nation.
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